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Recipe for Destruction


There’s a pretty nefarious thing going on in the world right now, and it’s been at play for a number of years. Some might call it the assembly of the ‘new world order’ – while I simply call it the totalitarian takeover of personal liberties/rights by governing bodies.

Governing bodies doesn’t have to be a political system, either. For example, the Human Rights Campaign is a ‘governing body’ that many people in the LGB community have faithfully supported for years. I know quite a few members of this community that are now adamantly against some of the stances the HRC has taken in recent years…stating “they don’t speak for me!”

I look at institutions within the political spectrum and see a perfectly-planned system that’s been created by a small number of individuals that truly don’t have the best interest in the people they claim to serve. If they did, they wouldn’t be dropping bombs like ticker tape on innocent civilians, radically taking over organic farming operations or even mandating certain measure in ‘health’ care for the masses.

For example, if the government was truly interested in the health and well-being of its people, it would be far more reasonable to assume they would mandate drinking certain amounts of water, mandates for adequate sleep and even going so far as to ban things like soda and alcohol, while promoting and subsidizing farms that produce hormone-free, organic food that’s actually healthy – and safe – for people to eat.

They don’t.

Instead, they now dish out quarantines, lockdowns and mask mandates that do absolutely nothing to prevent the spread of disease – which is a fact proven by multiple medical journals.

This isn’t about health. This is about the systemic destruction of the global population of individuals, and I speak as a citizen of both the US and the world.

How do you destroy a large group of people? You start first by dismantling the strongest part of its foundation; the family household.

“If there is to be peace in the world,
There must be peace in the nations.
If there is to be peace in the nations,
There must be peace in the cities.
If there is to be peace in the cities,
There must be peace between neighbors.
If there is to be peace between neighbors,
There must be peace in the home.
If there is to be peace in the home,
There must be peace in the heart.”


The older I get, the more I realize how simple – and yet costly – it is to have peace within your family. As some might say, it is the “free gift that costs you everything” and I think this applies for the creation, maintenance and protection of the family unit.

No family was ever designed to be identical to the other, and no family should have members that are all just like the other. In order for differences to exist, there must be a level of respect, understanding and even compromise that need to exist within this ecosystem, otherwise it starts to fragment and fall apart with division.

I know many people who claim that their family is the most important thing in their life, but their actions simply don’t measure up to this claim. How can I tell? Because their family is often given second-seat to other priorities in their life.

I’ll probably piss off a few people by saying this, but I will never believe anybody who tells me that their family is the most important thing in their life who spends more time apart from their family than together, especially families with young children.

The destruction of the family unit begins when these values are systemically replaced by other less valuable priorities in life. I know a great deal of people who struggle to maintain societal appearances and have a large house, multiple cars – and multiple jobs and credit cards to pay for it all.

As a child, I wanted to dress in cool clothes that my family simply couldn’t afford. As a result, I didn’t ever have a pair of Jordans, JNCO jeans or even Abercrombie. I may have been critical of my family as a child, but as an adult, I’m SO thankful that my parents stuck to their guns, shopped at thrift stores and taught me to enjoy the clothes they were able to afford – even when others called them ‘dorky’ – because that built far more CHARACTER than promoting a vain EGO that name brands would have given me.

I’m going to piss off more people here, but I also am highly critical of the public school system – and even college universities. Are they truly educating children, or simply teaching them to consume false information and learn how to be bored for 8-10 hours a day?

As a proud dork that was raised in a homeschooled family, I can only speak from my experience, as well as the results my education has yielded in my life.

I have strong relationships with my siblings, regularly call my Mom and Grandmother – the only living relatives in the paternal sense – and I continue to invest in these relationships even above having a large circle of friends to go out with every weekend, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

My relationship with my Mom is worth far more to me than any friendship I have, and I will not apologize for saying that, or somehow feel like a loser.

How do you destroy a family? You propagate the idea that it isn’t necessary for the success and well-being of its participants, and you get the members of the family to place a higher value on external pursuits than in the livelihood of their own household.

When a family is respectful, treats its members well and embraces each other despite their differences, you have a working formula for creating human beings that will go into the world and apply those same values to strangers, people in different nations and others who think, feel and look different than them.

I know somebody who has a son that is now spending most of his adult life in prison, because he murdered one of his friends in cold blood. The act is too gruesome for me to feel comfortable to share on this blog. That parent has always expressed complete surprise that their son could have done such a thing – citing “he was such a normal boy” – well, I don’t think that things like this happen by accident.

Where was the parent when they shipped their son off for somebody else to teach and raise? Where was the parent when this boy was handed a video game console that taught him how to kill and slaughter? Where was the parent when this boy sat in front of a television screen that normalized violence and turned it into entertainment?

That’s a great question.

Some might read this blog and have a lot of criticism for me. That’s fine. I’d welcome different points of view. However, I don’t know if there are many that will be stronger than my belief in the importance of family.

These ‘values’ that often replace family aren’t always very apparent. In many cases, they even seem righteous and good – worthy of the ‘sacrifice’ one needs to make in order to deprioritize their family.

I’ll bring up one final example, which is a singer that I happen to listen to; TobyMac.

Toby recently lost one of his sons due to an overdose of fentanyl, which is a tragedy no parent should ever face. Toby is, without question, the most successful musician in the gospel music industry, and he has traveled all over the world to promote both his music and the message of his religions.

Was it worth the life of his own son to have this successful music career? Was it worth standing on stage and sharing his religious views with millions of people when it meant being away from his own family?

Personally, I don’t think so. I think Tru, his son, would have preferred that his Dad have made him more of a priority than hopping on a tour bus. If that were the case, perhaps Tru would still be alive, instead of six feet under.

I won’t apologize for having these views, or even making these critical statements. As I write this, Atlas is asleep next to me, and I’ll be there to greet him the moment he wake up – and that, to me, is worth everything.

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